About generational wealth.

In my years as a facilitator, and researcher I have learned more about intergenerational trauma then I can put down in this blog. During my studies and research I focussed on genetics, and epigenetic. On the nature and nurture of humans. I focused on understanding how It can be true that traumas travels through generations, and alters our DNA.

It fascinated me to such a degree I wrote papers about it, gave lectures and based methods of my teaching around this.

And I still feel very strongly about the topic, the content of course but also what I have seen around me, what  people have done with this.

I have seen children of immigrants trying to be in the world they are in, without losing the connection to their roots. Roots that they only know by stories and only feel inside their spirit. The first generations find it difficult to move with the new generation. I see a lot of attachment to trauma and to the sense of, ' one day we will all go home'. Turning a blind eye to the fact that there is a new world now, and in that new world there is no going back. Only blending and mixing.

I don't mean to offend anything or anyone, I am speaking out of my own experience.

As a person that was forced to migrate and grew up in the opposite side of the world, I do understand many layers of these issues.

Let me give you an example.

When I was born, my mother and me spend 20 minutes together before we were separated for 19 years. I grew up with white people that were in every way the opposite of my mother.

19 years later, without ever seeing my mother, or even knowing if she was still alive after all these years, we met again.

And as I was looking in her eyes, I didn't just recognise my face in hers, I had the same manners.

The way we sniffed our noses, the way we laughed, the way we have this massive resting bitch face when we listen. Yes our genetics were similar, obviously, but the way we carried ourselves in the world was also similar.

I know that I have fears from my mother that I got via our shared DNA. After all I didn't grew up with her.

Let me give you a few examples.

My mother is afraid of flying, and she refuses to get into an airplane.

I am not a big fan of flying, but I have flew all over the world and even for my work at some point in my life, was flying every week.

My son likes rollercoasters, everything fast an high, and can't wait to go flying.

My mother has been poor her whole life, struggling in the favelas of Bogota.

And her mother before her and so on and so on.

If we track it back far enough we will find my ancestors living in a tribe in the jungle or mountains, not even knowing the concept of money.

In the upbringing with my foster parents money was a source of stress, status, and just an overal fear that there wasn't enough.

I wasn't taught properly to manage money or how all these systems actually work.

In my adult life I spend a lot of time healing the relationship I have had with money.

This is nature /nurture in full action people! This right here is evolution, growth, change.

And this goes for so many other aspects of who we are now, and all that we carry in ourselves.

All im saying is, if I keep my focus on the fact that colonisers came in the jungle put down a church and introduced money to my ancestors, and then life was bad for forever, what is that going to do with my life now?

We all know by now that it is scientifically proven that we carry these traumas in our DNA. What has been alive in our lineage, will be lived until it's ready to be transformed. The second generation might have not been able to, but maybe the third is. All im saying is, I have changed some of my positions about this topic.

I have been teaching for so many years about intergenerational trauma, and my message has always been;

We are the generation that can choose to break free from this transfer of pain.

Because let's be clear, the foundation that intergenerational trauma rests on, is storytelling. ( like everything else )

What I want to say is that in my vision and in my teaching I believe that if the root of the issue is not in full awareness, we will spend a life time trying to cure symptoms. So I do feel it is very important to know where you came from, and who came before you. I know it is essentially relevant to have a deep understanding of your traumas and issues so you can face them and heal them.

Yes to all of this.

But! And!  I feel the need for nuance, I feel the need for balance and I feel the need for accountability.

Let me clarify.

For the last few years I have been focusing on getting the root out. Personally and collectively.

And now I feel that maybe it could be, time to step into not only the generational trauma, but move into the generational wealth.

I am in the world now, and I am open to receive all of this prosperity. I understand now that my sense of worthiness will determine my ability to receive. So if I focus on the scarcity and trauma, I won't be able to hold anything else in my hands but the pain of my ancestors. I am not focusing on breaking generational curses, I don't feel cursed. I am blessed, I am highly favoured. I am so much more then just the traumas in my life or the traumas of the ones before me, and I am more then just my mothers daughter.

I do of course  recognise these traumas and I am all for the restoration of all oppressed people. Fuck yes. I just don't feel I am going to reach liberation if I focus on the poison instead of on the medicine.

I feel ready to focus on this transformation, and in my view healing is not reached by exclusion ever. We can not reach connection if we dismiss or blame others.

Let's take accountability for our magic instead. Let's focus on how we can raise generations of humans that focus on healing instead of on blaming.

Let me close by saying this.

Where there is oppression there will be violence. Violence is justified if we fight for liberation for all.